Tuesday, February 3, 2009
We Are Family/ 9:44 AM
A lot of things were being said last night between everyone,
but a common understanding wasn't reached.
It's all but a big misunderstanding all round,
and everyone has their own reasons for what they said...
However it's true that if certain things were explained better,
such a big conflict would have been avoided...
Sometimes it's more important to be tactful than being honest..
It's not wrong to be honest and transparent to everyone,
but sometimes the truth may hurt more if not explained clearly.
Somehow people are confused between the personal and the official reasons given,
hence the confusion and the impression of bias.
But since it's supposedly explained not to be biased,
why is it so contradicting when certain personal reasons were brought up?
To most people, all they want is a proper explanation
as to why some were not considered to be among the "chosen ones"...
They don't want to feel that they are being left out,
they don't wanna feel that it's biased...
They asked for an explanation, hoping that it's not really a case of bias.
But contradicting explanations were given
and in the end things only look more biased than ever...
It's already a big blow to be excluded like this,
so all they want is some consolation and explanation to ease their unhappiness.
Even white lies would have made them feel more comfortable,
so as to help them cope with the disappointment...
I'm not shooting anyone here btw, I am standing on neither side of the argument..
I am simply saying what is going on for both sides.
So on the other side, it has been very tough for him to handle the entire case.
Past experience from last year's incidents were already painful enough,
there's no need for a repeat offence.
All he can do is to do his best for everyone,
but when he's bounded by so many restrictions, this is the best he can already give.
Regarding the justifications given, I believe it wasn't a personal opinion,
but it's the justifications that has to be given to the school.
The choice of people may appear deliberate and biased,
but the truth is that these people does have most credentials to be justified in a way,
so as to convince "you-know-who" to give us the money.
Let's ignore the parts about personal and being comfortable,
the truth still is that "you-know-who" can only look at the surface and say
"Yes i know him/her. He/She has a post / They joined competitions and won,
So I'm okay with giving him/her the money"
Frankly speaking you can't expect her to know every single one from the club,
hence it's harder to justify for those who she don't really know.
It isn't that the rest aren't important to the club, that they don't contribute,
but it's that "you-know-who" can only help those who appears to be justified on the surface.
Everyone is part of the club, everyone contributes in one way or another,
and this trip is supposedly able to let everyone bond and have fun too...
But when it comes to money issue,
especially when we all know how fussy those ppl up there can be,
this is already considered the best solution available.
It is sad for those who is deemed not justified to be included,
but this is wad we have to accept when "you-know-who" can only look at the surface.
Considering that last year's trip was screwed,
the fact that we still got this opportunity this year is already a big blessing.
It's a chance for the club to redeem last year's mistakes,
so we gotta do our best to get things right.
What we can do to help ease the load of those not among the chosen list,
is to try to share the costs of as many things as possible.
As long as it is within our means and control, I don't see why we can't do that.
Talking about being family, this is how we can help each other..
Everyone has to sacrifice for one another, so that everyone can go for the trip,
enjoy it to the fullest and make it less financially taxing for everyone.
Personally i don't mind spending more so that others not included can spend less.
As a family we should work within our means,
and not quarrel about what we cannot change.
I do agree that a lot of things could have been explained better,
but hopefully that thru my post here people can get a clearer picture of what's going on.
This whole incident makes me don't even want to be subsidised anymore.
Cos i feel for those not subsidised... I do believe that yes, we are a family.
We still are, no matter what was being said last night.
Hopefully everyone can let this grudge go and move on,
and work together to make this trip happen.
It will be a great one for everyone if we are willing to sacrifice for each other. =)
jiayou to everyone else too who has to work hard and save $ for the trip.
I will be praying hard that everything goes well. =)
don't wanna be left hanging on a thread...
everyone, just clear things up yea?